Hey — We’re Duane and Lauren Spires.
If you’re reading this, there’s a real chance your marriage feels stuck, distant… maybe even on the edge of divorce. We know what that’s like.
Because we lived it for over 10 years...
On the outside, we looked like the picture-perfect couple:
Successful careers.
A beautiful family.
Smiles on Sunday mornings.
But behind closed doors?
We were unraveling.
One argument, one silent night, one fake smile at a time.
The truth?
We were drowning in:
• Debt
• Infidelity
• Addiction
• Emotional disconnection
• Constant division
And no one knew.
Because we were too ashamed to tell the truth.
Too afraid of what people would think if they saw how broken things really were.
So we did what most couples do when it starts to fall apart...
• Read the books.
• Watched the YouTube videos.
• Joined the marriage small group.
• Paid the counselor.
• Prayed harder.
• Tried harder.
But nothing changed.
In fact... all it did was make us feel even more defeated.
It felt like the harder we tried, the worse things got.
Until finally... we hit rock bottom
.
And it was in that moment, we realized:
The division we were fighting wasn’t our real enemy.
It was only a symptom of something deeper.
There were hidden root issues inside both of us — emotional wounds, lies we had believed about ourselves and each other, and unhealed pain we carried into the marriage.
The real enemy wasn’t each other.
It was what was inside of us that we never knew how to face.
Once we stopped trying to fix the fruit of our marriage problems…
And started healing the root...
Everything changed.
Not overnight.
Not without a fight.
But finally — we stopped pretending and started transforming.
Today, our marriage isn’t perfect.
But it’s real.
It’s honest.
It’s unified.
It’s free.
That’s why Unchained Marriage exists.
Not to flood you with more advice.
But to guide you through a proven process that heals root-level division and creates real connection.
And we want to show you how.
It Starts With the First Step:
We created a free training called "The Art of Unity" — it’s the same truth that started our healing… and it’s now helped thousands of couples find the breakthrough they’ve been praying for.
You’ll learn:
Why most marriage advice makes your marriage worse, not better.
What a "root issue" actually is, and how to spot it in yourself.
How to finally create unity without begging, faking, or forcing it.
If your heart still believes it’s possible — even just a little, then take the first step.
Click the green button below and start the training.
This may be the most important decision you ever make for your marriage.
In Christ’s love and unity,
Duane & Lauren Spires
Unchained Marriage
Hey — We’re Duane and Lauren Spires.
If you’re reading this, there’s a real chance your marriage feels stuck, distant… maybe even on the edge of divorce.
We know what that’s like.
Because we lived it for over 10 years...
On the outside, we looked like the picture-perfect couple:
Successful careers.
A beautiful family.
Smiles on Sunday mornings.
But behind closed doors?
We were unraveling.
One argument, one silent night, one fake smile at a time.
The truth?
We were drowning in:
• Debt
• Infidelity
• Addiction
• Emotional disconnection
• Constant division
And no one knew.
Because we were too ashamed to tell the truth. Too afraid of what people would think if they saw how broken things really were...
So we did what most couples do when it starts to fall apart...
• Read the books.
• Watched the YouTube videos.
• Joined a marriage small group.
• Paid the counselor.
• Prayed harder.
• Tried harder.
But nothing changed.
In fact... all it did was make us feel even more defeated.
It felt like the harder we tried, the worse things got.
Until finally...
we hit rock bottom.
And it was in that moment, we realized:
The division we were fighting wasn’t our real enemy...
It was only a
symptom of something deeper.
There were hidden root issues inside both of us — emotional wounds, lies we had believed about ourselves and each other, and unhealed pain we carried into the marriage.
The real enemy wasn’t each other...
It was what was inside of us that we never knew how to face.
Once we stopped trying to fix the
fruit of our marriage problems…
And started healing the
root...
Everything changed.
Not overnight.
Not without a fight.
But finally — we stopped pretending and started transforming.
Today, our marriage isn’t perfect.
But it’s real.
It’s honest.
It’s unified.
It’s free.
That’s why Unchained Marriage exists.
Not to flood you with more advice, but to guide you through a proven process that heals root-level division and creates real connection.
And we want to show you how.
It Starts With the First Step:
We created a free training documentary called "The Art of Unity" — it’s the same truth that started our healing…
And it’s now helped thousands of couples discover their root issue and find the breakthrough they’ve been praying for.
You’ll learn:
Why most marriage advice
makes your marriage worse, not better.
What a "root issue" actually is, and how to spot it in yourself.
How to finally create unity without begging, faking, or forcing it.
If your heart still believes it’s possible — even just a little, then take the first step.
Click the green button below and start the training.
This may be the most important decision you ever make for your marriage.
In Christ’s love and unity,
Duane & Lauren Spires
Unchained Marriage
He was winning at work…
and losing her at home.
Years of disconnection. Surface fixes failed. Until they uncovered a root problem hiding in plain sight. What they found changed everything...
He escaped into alcohol. She escaped into silence.
Their marriage was crumbling. But what if the alcohol or video games wasn’t the real problem? They traced it to the root issue…
Health issues. Financial stress. Distance.
But none of those were the real problem. When they faced the root cause they’d been avoiding, everything started to heal....
It wasn’t just their story… it was years of pain.
They thought they were just fighting each other — but the root issue ran deeper. What they discovered and broke in their family line…
You can break too.
She walked on eggshells. He didn’t know why.
Every fight was the same. Every solution failed. Until they discovered the root problem underneath it all. One simple insight changed their entire marriage.
He was scared to tell her.
She already knew something was wrong. Secrets were building walls. But what was underneath them was the real threat — the root issue that almost cost them everything...
He was winning at work…
but losing her at home.
Years of disconnection. Surface fixes failed. Until they uncovered a root problem hiding in plain sight. What they found changed everything...
He escaped into alcohol.
She escaped into silence.
The marriage was crumbling. But what if the alcohol wasn’t the real problem? They traced it to the root issue… and what they found might surprise you.
Health issues. Financial stress.
Emotional distance.
But none of those were the real problem. When they faced the root cause they’d been avoiding, everything changed...
It wasn’t just their story…
It was generations of pain.
They thought they were just fighting each other but the root issue ran deeper. What they broke in their family line… you can break too.
She walked on eggshells.
He didn’t know why...
Every fight was the same. Every solution failed. Until they discovered the root problem underneath it all. One simple insight changed their entire marriage.
He was scared to tell her. She already knew something was wrong.
Secrets were building walls. But what was underneath them was the real threat — the root issue that almost cost them everything...
Every husband and wife who we help in our program, started their journey by first watching our 60-minute Mini-Documentary, "The Art Of Unity."
Duane Spires
Founder
Lauren Spires
Founder
Mason Cain
CEO
Marisa Acosta
Chief Operations Officer
Sydney Beach
Coaching Director
Julian Simhoni
Content and Design
Alisson Loor
Member Support
Alfonso Cisneros
Member Support
Duane Spires
Founder
Lauren Spires
Founder
Mason Cain
CEO
Marisa Acosta
Chief Operations Officer
Sydney Beach
Coaching Director
Julian Simhoni
Content and Design
Alisson Loor
Member Support
Alfonso Cisneros
Member Support
Most marriage programs give you a Band-Aid when what you need is heart surgery.
They’ll tell you to:
• Talk about feelings
• Schedule more date nights
• Journal your thoughts
But let’s be honest...
When your marriage is hanging by a thread, you know a list of tips isn’t going to save it...
Because the problem isn’t your communication.
The problem is deeper.
What most programs completely miss is this:
Marital division is never the root issue...
It’s a fruit.
Real restoration, as Scripture defines it, doesn’t happen by tweaking behavior.
It comes through something far more costly...
A rebirth.
A dying to self.
A laying down of pride.
A surrender to God that says:
“Do whatever it takes.”
“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation…”
(2 Corinthians 5:17)
That’s not just true for individuals...
It’s true for your marriage.
Welcome to Unchained Marriage
We’re not another advice-based program.
We’re a 90-day guided process to fight for your marriage the way God intended.
No fluff.
No cliché tips
No skipping the deep work.
Just a proven, Spirit-led process that exposes the real roots of your disconnection and walks you step-by-step into healing, unity, and emotional safety.
The same system that restored our marriage, has now helped thousands of couples rewrite their story too.
And it all starts with a simple shift:
You stop trying to fix the symptoms, and finally deal with the root.
But Here’s the Hardest Truth…
To build something new,
The old must die.
Old habits.
Old hurts.
Old control.
Old ways of avoiding the pain.
We know what it’s like to wonder if the love will ever come back.
To be terrified that facing the truth might tear everything down.
But what if that collapse is exactly what God wants...
To rebuild something better from the rubble?
If you’re here,
It’s not by accident.
God may be inviting you to take the first step into a different kind of restoration.
One that starts from the inside out.
Watch the Free Training: "The Art of Unity"
This video will show you the simple shift that started our transformation…
And the biblical blueprint behind every restored marriage we’ve helped lead.
Click the button below to watch the training now.
It might just be the most important thing you ever do for your marriage.
In Christ’s love,
Duane & Lauren Spires
Founders, Unchained Marriage
Most marriage programs give you a Band-Aid when what you need is heart surgery.
They’ll tell you to:
• Talk about feelings
• Schedule more date nights
• Journal your thoughts
But let’s be honest...
When your marriage is hanging by a thread, you know a list of tips isn’t going to save it...
Because the problem isn’t your communication.
The problem is deeper.
What most programs completely miss is this:
Marital division is never the root issue...It’s a fruit.
Real restoration, as Scripture defines it, doesn’t happen by tweaking behavior.
It comes through something far more costly...
A rebirth.
A dying to self.
A laying down of pride.
A surrender to God that says:
“Do whatever it takes.”
“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation…”
(2 Corinthians 5:17)
That’s not just true for individuals...
It’s true for your marriage.
Welcome to Unchained Marriage
We’re not another advice-based program...
We’re a 90-day guided process to fight for your marriage the way God intended.
No fluff.
No cliche tips.
No skipping the deep work.
Just a proven, Spirit-led process that exposes the real roots of your disconnection and walks you step-by-step into healing, unity, and emotional safety.
The same system that restored our marriage… Has now helped
thousands of couples rewrite their story too.
And it all starts with a simple shift:
You stop trying to fix the symptoms, and finally deal with the root.
But Here’s the Hardest Truth…
To build something new,
The old must die.
Old habits.
Old hurts.
Old control.
Old ways of avoiding the pain.
We know what it’s like to wonder if the love will ever come back.
To be terrified that facing the truth might tear everything down.
But what if that collapse is
exactly what God wants...
To rebuild something better from the rubble?
If you’re here, It’s not by accident.
God may be inviting you to take the first step into a different kind of restoration.
One that starts from the
inside out.
Watch the Free Training: "The Art of Unity"
This video will show you the simple shift that started our transformation…
And the biblical blueprint behind every restored marriage we’ve helped lead.
Click the button below to watch the training now.
It might just be the most important thing you ever do for your marriage.
In Christ’s love,
Duane & Lauren Spires
Founders, Unchained Marriage
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